My son is gay.
I have been 98% sure of this for at least 3 years. When I read on his Facebook profile that he's "in a relationship" I knew without a doubt. I also knew he needed me to ask who the relationship is with, so I did...I took the bait knowing full well what was in store. I had been wondering how to approach the subject with him, and I'm so thankful we can talk openly about this now. What a relief! He feels relieved too, knowing that his whole family loves him and accepts him just as he is. (Not sure about the extended family...we're not having a coming out party or anything, so we will deal with grandmas and grandpas on a "need to know" basis I guess).
A friend at work today pulled me aside and told me she knows about my son, and it doesn't change how she feels about him at all. She loves him, and it's okay that he's who he is. She hugged me and we cried together.
I feel thankful (can't believe I'm gonna say this...LOL) that I am married to a gay man. I have so much more compassion and understanding for my son than I would if I were married to a hetero man. I am so much more prepared for this news than someone who has never dealt with homosexuality on a personal level. I really feel that our family is closer right now than ever before. We need each other. We draw strength from each other, and it feels so good.
I know our son will have rough times ahead, but he knows he has somewhere to go when he needs to talk or when he needs a hug. He has people to turn to for support and strength and love. I will always love him and accept him exactly as he is. He is my son.